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I dedicate this guide to the ability of every person to “move mountains” for love if necessary and to reveal even the most difficult mysteries.
I express my thanks to all the people who have never given up faith in love and in themselves, even in the greatest crises of their lives. That is why I have always felt – I am not alone with this.
From the bottom of my heart I want to thank my lovely initiator who has inspired and challenged me in a spe- cial way, for the extraordinary time I spent with her. Without her, this guide might never have been written.
This guide is also an expression of my past responsi- bility. It has been created in the search for answers to incredible events and karmic relationships in my life.
With this book I want to provide you with a relationship guide which can accompany you in your future life. Maybe I will be able to reach something inside you on the following pages that calls for a freedom that you might have already given up.
Do You Really Believe?
Do you really believe
I do not know
how it feels
to be left alone again,
in the incomprehensibility –
in the middle of the heart.
Searching for answers
in the middle of nowhere
and knowing only one question –
Do you really believe
I do not know,
how deeply injured
all this feels?
Do you know
how it feels
to know more,
but not enough?
Do you know,
what life is like
despite all the burdens
that you carry,
This is “only”
one human being alone
Do you know
how it feels
to be victim and perpetrator
and to have no way out,
not even rage;
all the responsibility
and to feel longing
like a wolf?
And nobody there
to talk to,
who could understand it.
© Bernd Casel
For many years, life had presented me with more questions than answers.
What you get to read below has been written because people like you and I and all those we love or would have wished to love, deserve an answer.
Especially when it comes to being lovesick, feelings are turned upside down, the soul is confused and the affected person often feels utterly desperate. Many people feel helpless and clueless with regards to rela- tionship issues. In “karmic” relationships, life seems to go off the rails uncontrollably. In this guide you will find out why many consultants, seminars and therapists cannot help you. Above all, you will finally get a clear view of fundamental connections that have never been published before in this way. Practical ways to achieve change, heartfelt love and many aha-moments are al- so included here.
Even for me, life still holds many secrets. I would how- ever like take this opportunity to share with you all the things I have found out so far. Before we set out on our journey to unravel the secrets, I would like to as- sure you right now: beyond the suffering there is still hope.
Anyone who follows this path accelerates the healing process for all of us. The topic “relationship” can basi- cally only be understood if we are willing to consider the complex structures involved more precisely. I would like to give you the opportunity here to study a few of the key areas in more detail and hope that these basics can help you find targeted new ways to your personal freedom. More and more, you will be able to recognise, understand and change what per- haps still forms the mysterious framework of your sleepless nights.
This guide will show you how to see family-related, private and professional relationships and their karmic aspects with renewed clarity.
The aim of this book is to give you deep insights into entanglements that lead to unhappy relationships. Here, you will find out how un-happiness is character- ised by the un-imaginable. You will get an overview of possible structures in your personal life history, ena- bling you to access a new ability to act which allows for personal freedom and also a new ability to achieve happiness in romantic relationships.
This guide takes a serious look at the true roots of deep despair felt by people injured by love. This is not possible without going deep to the basis of reality and personal responsibility. As a reward for your courage, I will lead you from the depths of inner turmoil, confu- sion and mental injuries to a safe path of change in your personal story and into a new quality of life.
This may open a new space for a fulfilled, joyful love relationship, which also includes a worthy place for tenderness and a mindful, sensual and erotic encoun- ter in sexuality.
Now it’s up to you to decide whether you are ready to take the necessary steps!
If you want to understand and change relationships, you cannot avoid confronting the misfortune that also comes with them.
Difficulties in relationships are often experienced as a personal defeat for which you blame yourself, others or fate. Perhaps you are familiar with the feeling of having drawn a “blank” yet again or suddenly finding yourself on your own again, quite out of the blue. But what are the dynamics that affect relationships, when even happy dating can come to an abrupt end? How can we deal with the variety of questions concerning relationships and find good solutions? The guide “The Secret of Karmic Relationships” gives you clear and easily comprehensible answers to these and many other questions.
The complex connections in partnerships and other re- lationships have probably never been described in such a comprehensive, clear and concise way before. Here, a lot of mysteries will be solved that have al- ready given many people sleepless nights, in one lifetime or more.
As the author of this book, I would like to take this op- portunity to introduce myself. This will help you to understand why I feel that I am qualified to provide you with this guide.
I have been fascinated by relationships since my early youth, which is why – despite my technical vocational training and my own company in this field – I followed my desire to gain further qualifications in the area of life counselling. This led me to start a private advisory practice a few years later and by now I have acquired over twenty-five years of experience.
Information on basic and advanced training in this field is intended for your orientation only.
For me, it was obviously necessary to follow all these pathways on which we have perhaps even met before. For you, this may mainly provide an indication that this guide is based on ethical, personal experiences and has been developed over many years.
During this time, I discovered and documented certain patterns in relationships and researched the back- grounds of difficulties and “misfortunes” back to their origins. My own life also brought many therapy- resistant mysteries which needed to be solved. All this led to the creation of a practical handbook which con- tains lots of checklists, a step-by-step guide and proven advice. With a number of exercises in the prac- tical part you will receive a universal guide that will help you recognise, understand and change every- thing that has a burdening, stressful or unhappy effect on relationships.
This guide isn’t just for all those people who always wanted to know what a karmic relationship is, it also reveals secrets that are wholly unknown even to expe- rienced advisors, therapists and mediums!
Here, more questions will be answered than you have ever asked yourself about love, unhappy relationships, partnerships and sexuality. Among other things, the secrets of forbidden love, karmic love, karmic entan- glements and dual souls will be revealed. Whether it’s phenomena in relationships, physical symptoms or stubborn success blockages: many issues will appear in a completely new and clear light here.
Armed with this knowledge you will save yourself a for- tune on courses, consultants, seminars and therapies that cannot help you because their providers have no experience with the complex cause-and-effect correla- tions in relationships.
This practical guide will give you all the answers to your questions and problems you need in order to re- gain solid ground under your feet again, even in crisis situations. Perhaps you would like to find out what some of the first readers of the PDF edition thought of it.
Why “Karmic” relationships?
All relationships are mainly determined by two kinds of dynamics. Cause and effect. For millennia, the time- less view of these things has been described most aptly in Buddhist teachings as the cycle and law of KARMA. Since I am not aware of any scientific model which includes timeless responsibility for personal thoughts and actions in such a clear form, I deliberate- ly decided to use the conceptual reference to the principle of KARMA.
But there is another reason why I speak of “karmic” re- lationships. In its original form, the spiritual concept of KARMA clearly bases human existence on the validity and law of the “cause + effect” principle. Consequent- ly, KARMA arises from a law, not from some random and unpredictable stroke of fate or the whim of a puni- tive “God”.
The essence of this “spiritual” concept is the reference to the more scientific facts and the observation of cause and effect. Since many, even “spiritual” people, live in effects, without being able to establish a refer- ence to the true causes, for me the “spiritual” model of KARMA establishes helpful ties to modern scientific and therapeutic procedures.
Not least, the “karmic” in the title of this guide creates room in a unique way for one of the best known and nonetheless most mysterious phenomena since the dawn of mankind. You might have guessed it already. It is love.
In the sense of this guide, “karmic” refers to a cycle of cause and effect which again and again leads to seemingly unsolvable conflicts
at relationship level.
Many people do not understand their fate. They are of- ten considered incurable or branded as crazy if they tell their story to someone else. Many people get no real help from conventional medicine, scientific meth- ods or psychological counsellors. That’s why those affected tend to search for answers using “spiritual” and “esoteric” methods. I have had the same experi- ence, and this is how we can learn. What perhaps distinguishes me from others is the fact that I have studied and applied many methods without bias and put them under very critical scrutiny.
I know what clients are talking about when they speak of information which they received by channelling, holotropic breathwork, Fogo Sagrado, matrix work, au- ra surgery, all kinds of medial or shamanic sessions, astrological or numerological analysis, satsang, psy- cho kinesiology or regression. I know the limits and possibilities of many methods. Among other things, I am trained as a channel medium and a reiki master and have gained a lot of practical experience working as an esoteric life advisor and reincarnation therapist
for many years. I have worked as an avatar trainer and I am trained in NLP. Please do not worry if you have never heard about any of this before. It has not helped me sufficiently to answer the essential questions of my own life, but I would simply like to reassure you that the content of this book reflects the essence of many methods as well as my own personal experiences, be- fore you start to invest time and money in this guide.
I have always followed the feeling of open life ques- tions to the bottom. I have regarded all my training as a starting point and pre-education but never as the fi- nal wisdom.
I would like to ask you to approach the information provided in this guide in the same way. Why is that important for you at this point? I have always found it helpful to expand the intellectual framework if the an- swers to certain life questions remained elusive. Even quantum physics begins to discover chains of influ- ence that are still completely unknown to other scientific areas. It is important that we do not lose the connection to the present life and also establish it again and again in a therapeutic context. The question is always with what responsibility and purpose I use or explore a particular method. The seriousness and depth to which I dedicate myself to a particular subject is also important. That’s why I use the term “deep life counselling” as the concept for my practice.
Many users misuse regression as escape projections for example or for time travel (according to my instruc- tor). The therapeutically necessary connection to the present and the current life is often not made. That
way all the “bad” can remain in the past and leave the ideal world illusion untouched in this life. It is often dif- ficult to establish a reference. Even I could not always completely manage to establish a reference to some issues. The open questions were an incentive for me to do more research, not only to find answers but also to develop my therapeutic skills and options.
When I refer to information from regression in this guide, I thereby ask you to understand this as a sum- mary of therapeutic work that is neither completed nor provides a complete picture. I would merely like to use this to give you a brief insight into this methodology and my therapeutic roots. This way you might get an idea of how this book has developed and why I work as a trauma therapist today.
As a person and a therapist I am not afraid of you coming to me and telling me that you can see the souls of deceased people. I know what you are talking about and I will take you seriously. As a child this scared me pretty badly because I was harassed by “souls” searching for my help. Back then I did not know what to do. I had a connection to “something” that I did not understand, and help in such matters was unat- tainable in my childhood. This personal helplessness and perception of visible and invisible relationships to people’s souls led me to develop a curiosity which continues unabatedly to this day: the curiosity to rec- ognise relationships in which we live, to understand and to change them for the better.
There was a time when no doctor or scientist had any idea about viruses, much less that someone could
make them visible. There was a time when people were burnt for the fact that they could help in cases where doctors were at their wits’ end. Perhaps one day, Kirlian photography or another method will be de- veloped to the extent that the “souls” of deceased people or their energy bodies can reliably be made vis- ible. Maybe one day technologies and scientific explanations will surface that will give practical, useful help for everything that “light workers” have already been doing for decades.
For me personally, ways of thinking and acting which are limited to this one life are too simplistic. A “spiritu- al” concept that supports me mentally in breaking away from the widespread “après moi, le déluge” men- tality, seems to me to be much more helpful. However, please be aware that this is only a concept. The terms used in this book such as Karma, psyche, soul, spirit, past lives, psychological splitting and others are also only intended as models. On the following pages, I have used the terms / models / concepts which are commonly applied in the vernacular and society as well as in a scientific-therapeutic context, even if I per- sonally have my own issues with some of them. With this in mind, as the author, I would like to use some terms which you have probably heard or read already. Personally, I am not attached to any of these terms and would not like to see them made into a religion. Therefore, you can use one of your own definitions for the notions of “direction”, “quality” or “vibration” sug- gested by me.
Does the soul, the mind or the psyche love, or only the physical heart? Such discussions can be conducted elsewhere.
With or without love. According to the principles of cause and effect, every person creates timeless chains of events with their actions or inactions. How- ever, in the course of their history, human beings often lose track of the complex connections and implications of their actions. Above all, they lose access to the cor- rect actions to step out of undesirable chains of events in the “here and now”.
If you want to understand yourself in the mirror of your relationships and chains of events, it makes sense to rely upon a timeless view of things. In order to do this, you do not need to believe in previous or future lives. For some therapeutic colleagues, the spiritual context of my explanations might be a thorn in their sides. But to be honest, I did not write this guide for them, alt- hough I am certainly pleased about benevolent interest from these circles.
I like to pick people up from the point they’re at, and similar experiences in the so-called “spiritual” area are a helpful bridge for an honest encounter. The clarity I have gained from a multitude of such experiences un- derlines the credibility of my therapeutic invitation to gradually leave “spiritual” or other vanishing points.
The secret of karmic relationships has also emerged from my personal history and thus enabled me as the author to integrate my roots, experiences and refer- ences into this book and its title.
From what I know now, I was already born with “burn- out”. After that, the real difficulties began. Even now, while writing these lines, I still struggle to explain in terms of scientific criteria alone how I was able to survive this period. With all due respect for science and reputable therapeutic analysis – it was not available to me at the most difficult time of my life. And I doubt that it could have helped me even then.
Our existence beyond concepts leads us to what moves us deep down in our hearts as human beings. It is there that we often discover contra- dicting, hurt and frozen feelings which are part of the un-freedom we experience on a relationship level as well.
The secret of karmic relationships is a documentary about human entanglements and their causes. By in- corporating timeless, karmic principles, the view opens up to solutions which can lead into a new freedom and clarity beyond conventional perspectives, not only in terms of love relationships.
From my own life story and practical work as a life counsellor and trauma therapist a unique way has de- veloped to explore deeper connections. It has become clear that we can change impacts and life situations easier if we recognise, understand and comprehend broader connections in their entire dimension. Maybe the information and real-life examples provided on the following pages will help you to gain a more complete picture of your own life story.
This guide is not a substitute for psychiatric or medical treatment. The responsibility for use, implementation and application of any information and exercises pro- vided here rests solely with you. Terminology used in this book is only meant as a commonly known point of reference for certain qualities of experiences.
I would be delighted if something you found in this book helped you to create a nicer version of your life.
Karmic relationships are based on a hitherto unexplained pattern of cause and effect.
This pattern works timelessly and at relationship level is experienced
as “bad luck” or “imperfection”.
A professional background for you:
Brief Information on Regression
Corresponding to their age, everyone has problems that appear to be very difficult or intractable. When we reach a higher age bracket, we are usually able to recognise the challenges of previous years and often see a variety of solutions.
Unresolved conflicts and painful experiences are often suppressed during the phase of experience. Later they cannot be remembered consciously as the cause of disturbances which continue to burden us. Reincarnation therapy uses the knowledge that we are always wiser afterwards than we were before in order to clear up and dissolve repressed conflicts from the
past, from earlier ages and “previous lives”, by way of regression.
The term “past life” primarily serves as a model to en- able easy immersion into past structures. An important part of serious reincarnation therapy, as I have learned it at least, is the interpretation of the information thus obtained. The real purpose of this method is the tar- geted support of clients in order to learn and analyse the parallel experience in this life relating to that core information.
Reincarnation therapy does not require a belief in re- birth (reincarnation), even if that is included in this model. Being open to this process allows a playful ac- cess to important information that ordinarily remains closed to us.
Nowadays I use an even more effective method than reincarnation therapy. You will find out more about it in this guide.
The knowledge and information I would like to convey to you in this guide essentially consists of three parts. Each part is an important phase for the initiation and support of a process of change which only becomes possible through the deeper understanding and time- less view of chains of events.
In order to be able to change relationship situations permanently, it is helpful to be aware of these phases. The key to change is your willingness to go through these phases consciously.
– Recognise the pattern
– Understand the connections
– Break free from burdensome entanglements
Each chapter is like a step into a new level of con- sciousness.
At each level, this guide opens the opportunity to you to expand your views and experiences on a particular topic.
Even just the process of reading sets free certain im- pulses which you perhaps won’t transfer into consciousness as knowledge until you get to the next chapter or the chapter after that.
With each change of your perception you gain a deep- er understanding of yourself and others. Your picture becomes clearer and more comprehensive. With each openness to enter new levels in your consciousness you come closer to clearing up your relationships. With this in mind, I would like to invite you and ask you to follow the structure of the chapters without bias. If you
trust me and follow me, everything will suddenly ap- pear logical to you from a certain point in the book. In this moment of great meaningfulness and clarity you will have accepted the key to your personal freedom. If you feel it, then this book has served its purpose.
This guide is designed so that you can read it time and time again. With each “round”, you will discover new things and recognise other contexts. Maybe you will ask yourself at one point or another whether the infor- mation there had already been mentioned before.
“The Secret of Karmic Relationships” is a journey through human and emotional entanglements to new perspectives and possibilities in order to pass through gates to freedom. I hope you have fun rediscovering your life/lives in the mirror of these realisations.
As I followed the tears,
I found the river,
and since I had lost
and given up everything
that had been important until now,
I let myself get carried away,
despite the risk
When I followed the river
between life and death,
I found a sea of tears
and in its depths
of times old and new.
I thus discovered
which I would have needed
but only later,
when the battle was lost,
I could find
in greatest willingness and humility,
the ability to do everything
to honour those Lost
For the immortal soul
is a precious diamond;
for us humans
only becomes valuable
when we accept it fully
to understand it
with our hearts.